01.08.2016 Our Kids

ADD/ADHD or Indigo Child?

Danielle Williams urges greater acceptance and support for the growing number of children who don’t fit the system

There is growing concern within our community surrounding the increasingly common diagnosis and treatment of ADD/ADHD or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Some estimates put the number of children diagnosed with ADHD at 100 million worldwide. There is also a belief amongst the spiritual community that these growing numbers of children are not disordered at all and, in fact, are what is now being referred to as Indigo Children.

Some estimates put the number of children diagnosed with ADHD at 100 million worldwide.

Dr Doreen Virtue PhD describes Indigo children as being “bright, intuitive, strong willed and sometimes self destructive. They often won’t comply with established rules and patterns and may exhibit behavioural problems at home and at school”. The description is identical to that which is used to diagnose ADHD. Dr Virtue also believes Indigo children all share a similar life purpose, that being to “usher in the New Age of Peace”. They do this by showing us that our current systems (educational, political, medical etc) are outdated, antiquated and no longer in line with our spiritual values of individual uniqueness and freedom of spirit.

My son Jay was diagnosed with ADD at the age of six after concerns from his teachers that he was “not concentrating” in class and seemed to “have his head in the clouds”. He did not display the hyperactive behaviour most often associated with ADHD, but apparently wasn’t learning at the required level. He was prescribed the ADHD medication Dexamphetamine and it seemed to improve his work output, but the side effects began to concern me. My normally happy, bubbly, chatty boy was irritable, quiet and withdrawn and had a very limited appetite. These are apparently all ‘normal’ side effects of the medication. I found myself trying to weigh up whether the side effects were worth it in respect of giving Jay the best chance at his education.

I struggled for many years with the decision of whether or not to keep Jay on medication but eventually I had to ask myself: Is it really okay to justify the side effects of medication on my child who, when it boils down to it, just doesn’t fit into the current educational system?

Jay’s strengths lay in his creativity and ability to think outside the box. His use of imagination and outrageous sense of humour would have his teachers enthralled, but these qualities didn’t seem to be reflected in his tests or schoolwork. When he reached high school he would get As in technology and design or anything with a creative aspect. His academic grades were not high except if they were teaching something he was interested in, namely science and history. He would also be praised for helping his peers in class and contributing to class discussion with interesting facts and hilarious anecdotes. Again, these are not traits that the education system recognises as valid achievements.

My praise and heartfelt gratitude does go out to our teachers, who I feel really do care about our children and try their very best to nurture their individual gifts. But there is only so much they can do when they are trying to teach 30 kids, all with completely different learning styles and subjects of interest!

Children as young as three or four are being medicated and, apart from minimal emphasis on dietary and lifestyle management, stimulant medication seems to be the only treatment solution recommended by our healthcare professionals.

The main reason for treatment of ADHD with medication is to improve the child’s concentration and enable them to maintain focus in order to succeed in school. In other words, so they can ‘keep up’ with the curriculum. So they can graduate and get that all-important piece of paper that says ‘This person is capable of working and contributing to society’.

The human race is evolving. The staggering rate of developments both in science and technology is intrinsically linked to our increase in spiritual awareness. Quantum physics is now beginning to understand the links between human consciousness and the effect it has on our outside world. Science and spirituality are now being studied cohesively rather than separately as has historically been the case.

Children now more than ever are being born with amazing spiritual talents that are just not being recognised in our society. The behavioural traits that a medical professional describes as being a disorder, a spiritual professional would describe as being a gift. A medical professional would have this group medicated to fit into the system, while the spiritual professional would have them praised. The medical professional describes their behaviour as ‘problematic’ whilst the spiritual professional uses this same behaviour as an example to highlight the systemic issues endemic within our society.

We need to wake up and realise that unless we start looking at behavioural problems in children from a holistic point of view, their problems are only going to get worse as they become adults. A lack of understanding of the true nature of their personalities has been proven as being a contributing factor in developing co-morbidities such as depression, anxiety, addictions and an overall feeling of not being worthy or able to ‘fit in’ to society.

If you are dealing with an ADHD diagnosis in your family, I urge you to consider alternatives to medication

We need to understand and nurture the gifts that come naturally to our children. We need to assure them that the way they feel about things, how they deal with the world around them and the solutions they find to their problems is normal and there is nothing wrong with them. If we are not giving them the support they need to grow and thrive, then that is something we as parents need to take responsibility for.

If you are dealing with an ADHD diagnosis in your family, I urge you to consider alternatives to medication. Doreen Virtue’s book The Care and Feeding of Indigo Children is a fantastic resource. Let’s look to other ways of dealing with these bright, intuitive and strong willed children other than medicating them into submission, which only serves to suppress their inherently spiritual nature. Let’s embrace and be proud of our non-conforming children and support them in their right to be who they were born to be – system busters!

But they can’t do it alone. They need our help, our guidance and our unconditional love as all children do. For the children really are our future and we must trust that they’ll enact the changes today’s society so desperately needs.